"Every time I want to say hello, every time I want to stay, I go..."
This lyric is completely and wonderfully ingenious. Just thought I should say that before I jump headfirst into this post. Okay. Now I can jump in ;)
I've written a few posts about guys, but none of them have really told you about my guy experiences (not that I've had all that many, haha). But anyway, you're gonna hear a little more of Anna's mind than usual.
I'm not even going to try and act like I haven't had crushes, 'cause I have. I've probably had at least 10 in my 15 years, not counting Jason Dunn, Matthew Thiessen, and all of those other amazingly blunt and witty artists out there. And then of course there's Peter Pevensie, but, ya'll already knew that was coming...
The point is I like guys. Whoa. Did I just say that on a Christian blog? Why, yes I did. Because it's the truth. A lot of Christian girls I know try to act like they've never had butterflies in their stomach or gotten all red when a certain guy comes around. They're all 'I'm waiting for the right guy to come along and not looking at anyone else until he does'.
Well, for some of you that might be the case, but not for me. Now I'm not telling you to not wait and to go have sex with some guy you think you're in love with. Because you should wait. I'm just saying that it's alright to like guys. Thinking they're cute and cool to hang out with is fine...it's supposed to be that way. But there is a difference bewteen liking and lusting.
Lusting is definined as a passionate or overwhelming desire or craving, or in my mind, more passion for a person than for God. If a guy consumes your thoughts 24/7, if he's the name on your notebooks, your shooting star, well, to me, that's lusting. He's become more important than your Savior. And nothing should be more important than Him. (I believe He adressed that in the 10 Commandments).
I realized that I was lusting over a guy the other day, and I want it to stop. There's a difference between daydreaming and thinking about constantly. I noticed that all I think about is trying to impress him, hoping he'll talk to me. And that's not the way it should be. I'm supposed to love God with all my heart, mind, soul, and strenth (Matthew 22:37). Not some sophmore soccer jock.
So - there's my take on the whole thing. And I know someone is going to ask this, so I might as well go ahead and answer. Do you have I crush right now? I do actually. And I wish I had the guts to say hello. Hence the song. Hence the 'I like guys'. Hence this post in general...
12 comments:
"hence" is officially my new favourite word. Thanks Anna. :P
Oh yeah -- and after talking on the phone to Micah for four hours yesterday -- i'm grounded until tomorrow. Oh well... my own fault.
It was kind of perfect though. :) he says that he likes you -- he likes the way i am when i'm talking to you. :)
Love you girlie! Great post. (you can publish this, i don't mind)
haha, i'm glad he likes me :) i'm still neutral when it comes to him, though. can't seem to make up my mind 'bout him. oh, well. guess i will eventually :P
This post is so awesome Anna!!! Thank you for writing this, you gave me a more clearer perspective on things. I've come to realize that I could be fit into that awful category of "lust" and I definitely don't want this guy to become my idol. I want God to be first. And maybe, if God sees fit, that guy may become the "one" God has planned for me, but I never want a guy to come between me and God, EVER. Thanks again for posting this.
Love ya!
(By the way...I {HEART} the song above!:) :) :)
Lovely post. I'm glad some young woman out there isn't afraid to say how they feel. :)
I like guys too. As friends. I have told myself that no man is interested in me until he expresses it {with words of course}.
Love and Hugs Anna! xxxx~Kelsey
:) yeah neutral is good though. :) means you'll stay level headed. Alsyon is a bit to enthrawled. :P
xx,
Bleah
THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS!!!! I'm so happy I'm not the only girl who feels this way. Yes, I'm a Christian, and yes, I like guys. Yes, I'm die hard in love with Peter Pevensie, and I know there are a few girls that look at me like I'm crazy when I talk about guys. No, guys are definitely NOT above my Savior, and yes, I do believe there's a difference in "liking" and "lusting".
Great post, Anna :))
-Jocee <3
P.S. Like Bleah said, "hence" is now my favorite word, too :P
I really liked this post:) It's nice to hear other Christian girls view of this.
lol......"I LIKE GUYS." Girl, I love you!!!!!!
but I think you covered the whole lusting vs. liking thing perfectly!!! just wondering....is this the same guy you emailed me about?
your brown-eyes-lovin' soul-sis,
Lily =D
Anna, you are right - When we put guys before God, we are telling God that He is not worth it. But He will ALWAYS be there for us, even when some guy won't.
When I'm older, I'm gonna let a guy prove to ME that he is the right one for me. I'm gonna let God bring the GUY to ME instead of me trying to find him. And I want the guy to prove it with his actions, not just words. I want him to love God more than me.
This is my veiw exactly! Having a crush isn't wrong, its normal. part of being a young woman is finding your Prince Charming, and to me crushing can help you find him. But you should also be doing other things besides crushing.
And like you did we should all say we DO have a crush instead of pretending we don't and we don't like boys.
I love your blog!
~
Autumn
Yeah, this is actually really true. ^_^
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